Resources

Dive into my favorite books and resources about human sexuality, healthy relationships, pleasure, consensual non-monogamy and more.

Table of contents

1. Healthy relationship dynamics

2. Female sexuality & pleasure for vulva owners

3. Male sexuality & masculinity

4. Sex and eroticism in general

5. Open & unconventional relationships

6. Healing from trauma & infidelity

    

On healthy relationship dynamics:

Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships by Marshall B. Rosenberg PhD & Deepak Chopra

Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love by Dr. Sue Johnson EdD

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work
by John M. Gottman, PhD, and Nan Silver

Making Love Real: The Intelligent Couple's Guide to Lasting Intimacy and Passion by Danielle Harel PhD , Celeste Hirschman MA

Wired for Love: How Understanding Your Partner's Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a Secure Relationship

    

Female sexuality & pleasure for vulva owners:

OMG Yes
OMG Yes is a website with amazing virtual tutorials on understanding and empowering pleasure for vulva owners.

Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski

She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman by Ian Kerner

Untrue: Why Nearly Everything We Believe About Women, Lust, and Infidelity Is Wrong and How the New Science Can Set Us Free by Wednesday Martin PhD

The Vagina Bible: The Vulva and the Vagina: Separating the Myth from the Medicine by Dr. Jen Gunter

    

On male sexuality & masculinity:

For the Love of Men: From Toxic to a More Mindful Masculinity by Liz Plank

He Comes Next: The Thinking Woman's Guide to Pleasuring a Man by Ian Kerner

Not Always in the Mood: The New Science of Men, Sex, and Relationships by Sarah Hunter Murray

Cockfidence: The Definitive Guide to Being The Man You Want To Be And Driving Women Wild by Celeste Hirschman MA, Danielle Harel PhD

Models: Attract Women Through Honesty by Mark Manson

    

On sex & eroticism generally:

Sex for One: The Joy of Self Loving by Betty Dodson

Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence by Esther Perel

The Erotic Mind: Unlocking the Inner Sources of Passion and Fulfillment by Jack Morin

The Sex Myth: The Gap Between Our Fantasies and Reality by Rachel Hills

Arousal: The Secret Logic of Sexual Fantasies by Michael Bader

Sex That Works: An Intimate Guide to Awakening Your Erotic Life by Wendy Strgar

The Ultimate Guide to Kink: Role Play and the Erotic Edge by Tristan Taormino, Barbara Carrellas

    

On open & unconventional relationships:

Sex at Dawn
by Cacilda Jetha Christopher Ryan (Author), and Christopher Ryan Allyson Johnson, Jonathan Davis (Reader)

The Way We Never Were: American Families And The Nostalgia Trap by Stephanie Coontz

Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy by Jessica Fern, Eve Rickert, Nora Samaran

The Jealousy Workbook: Exercises and Insights for Managing Open Relationships by Kathy Labriola

The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships & Other Adventures by Janet W. Hardy

Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships by Tristan Taormino

Designer Relationships: A Guide to Happy Monogamy, Positive Polyamory, and Optimistic Open Relationships by Mark A. Michaels

    

On healing trauma & infidelity:

Healing Sex: A Mind-Body Approach to Healing Sexual Trauma by Staci Haines

The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk M.D.

Waking the Tiger
by Peter A. Levine and Ann Frederick

The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity by Esther Perel

When Good People Have Affairs: Inside the Hearts & Minds of People in Two Relationships by Mira Kirshenbaum

The resources above are ones I personally have used or read and recommend.  By purchasing through the links above, I will receive a small affiliate fee. Thank you for supporting my business while educating yourself about healthy sex and relationships!