When an uncomfortable relationship is a good thing.

I used to dislike being uncomfortable. But something I realized about myself through long distance hiking is that I learn the most about myself when I’m right at the edge of my comfort zone.


The same thing goes for my relationships. I learn the most about myself when I choose to be in relationships that challenge me to be uncomfortable (not in an abusive way! Just in an “another f*cking opportunity for growth” way 🤦🏻‍♀️).



Choosing to be in relationships that challenge me to check my assumptions and limiting beliefs helps me grow more than anything else does. Some people don’t want to be in relationships where opportunities for growth come from facing a lot of discomfort, and that’s ok. Those people probably don’t choose to be in non-traditional relationships, which are inherently uncomfortable because of lack of social approval and available road maps for success.

But some of us need to be in relationships that challenge our comfort zones in order to feel most alive and to be our best selves. And that’s also ok! Do you choose to be at the edge of your comfort zone in order to learn more about yourself? If so, how?

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