Top 10 Sex & Relationship Experts on TikTok

Who knew that 15- to 60-second videos could deepen people's intimacy, improve relationships, lead to more fulfilling sex lives and even save marriages?

TikTok, still widely considered a platform for Gen Z entertainment, has become a thriving source of "edu-tainment" thanks to countless professionals in many fields, from lawyers and scientists to therapists, coaches and sex educators.

Thanks to the fact that TikTok creators must convey their message in one minute or less in an attention-grabbing way, the app has become an incredible source for byte-sized videos that are both memorable and educational.

I've been scouring the platform for the best creators in the realms of sexuality, intimacy & relationships and I'm excited to share them with you. (Plus, if TikTok is truly going to be banned in the US, I've listed other ways of finding these professionals online.)

So, without further ado...

The top 10 intimacy coaches, relationship therapists and sex educators on TikTok:

1. Janel Vitale (@lovewithjanel), Shame-free Relationship Coach

Janel's TikTok content is a balanced mix of sex education, relationship empowerment and interpersonal communication skills. She is passionate about sexual empowerment and supporting people to have the authentic intimate relationships they crave by unlearning outdated, harmful myths about sexuality & relationships. An expert in emotional intelligence, vulnerability and intimate communication, she teaches people how to get in touch with both their longings and fears in their relationships and express their desires and boundaries without shame. You can also find Janel on Instagram and Youtube @lovewithjanel as well as on her Love with Janel website.

2. Shaun Galanos (@thelovedrive), Love Coach

Shaun's videos are memorable for his straight-forward, no-nonsense relationship advice. His mission is to help people develop the emotional intimacy required to have loving and connected relationships with themselves and others. Through his coaching, online courses and his podcast The Love Drive, he helps people increase their relational skills, deepen their communication practices, and build their emotional intelligence to cultivate more intimacy with themselves and those around them. You can also find down on Instagram @thelovedrive and on his website.

3. Jocelyn Silva (@empowerinneryou), Sex Coach

Jocelyn Silva, known on TikTok for her fun "Sex Tips" series, has been a Sexual Health and Wellness Educator for 10 years. As a queer Latina woman who grew up in a conservative Catholic home, she understands the shame that can be inflicted to one's sexual identity. Jocelyn believes that everyone has the right to feel amazing in their own skin, embrace their sexuality, and experience sexual pleasure while feeling empowered doing so! Jocelyn can be found on Instagram @sexcoachjocelyn and on her website.

4. Matthew Hussey (@thematthewhussey), Dating Expert for Women

Matthew Hussey is a speaker, New York Times Bestselling author, columnist for Cosmopolitan Magazine, and dating expert on ABC’s digital series What To Text Him Back. In 2008 he created the brand GetTheGuy, establishing Hussey as one of the leading experts in the field of human attraction in the U.K. and U.S. 50,000 women have attended his live events and he has reached over 10 million online. You can also find Matthew on his popular YouTube channel, on Instagram @thematthewhussey and his website.

5. Staci Tanouye, MD (@dr.staci.t), ObGyn & Sex Educator

Dr. Staci is a Mayo-trained board certified gynecologist and one of the leading sex education creators on TikTok, teaching about healthy sex and how bodies function. She is passionate about women's health, helping her patients navigate difficult and sensitive topics such as postpartum depression and sexual dysfunction. She empowers women to make positive changes to be their healthiest selves. You can find Dr. Staci on Instagram @dr.staci.t and on her website.

6. Shane Birkel (@shanebirkel), Couples Therapist

Shane is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who is passionate about sparking change in people’s lives via their relationships. He helps couples overcome stress & frustration and feel more connected to each other. Shane does this by exploring their history and uncovering patterns they may not even be aware of, so that they can begin to have more control of their emotions and be excited about their relationship again. You can also find Shane on his Instagram @shanebirkel and on his website.

7. Dr. Kimberly Moffit (@ask_kimberly), Dating & Relationship Expert

Dr. Kimberly is a relationship expert and TV personality who has studied the ins and outs of romance to provide answers to love’s toughest questions. She offers a fun yet informative perspective on relationships, finding confidence, and strategies for dating and marriage. She has appeared on some of North America’s most watched TV programs and has been quoted in Women’s Health Magazine, ELLE Magazine, and The Wall Street Journal. You can also find Dr. Kimberly on her popular YouTube channel, on Instagram @kimberlymoffit and on her website.

8. Danielle Bezalel (@sexedwithdb), Sex Education

Danielle is the creator and host of Sex Ed with DB, a feminist podcast bringing you all the sex ed you never got through unique and entertaining storytelling. Danielle and her team believe that comprehensive, inclusive, sex-positive sex education is incredibly important, so they're on a mission to bring these conversations to the general public. You can also find Sex Ed with DB on Instagram @sexedwithdbpodcast, on YouTube and on the Sex Ed with DB website.

9. Erika Eileen (@erikaaeileen), Confidence & Sex Coach

Erika's passion is helping women gain confidence in their bodies and in the bedroom by reducing shame and stigma. Growing up with Type 1 diabetes, Erika felt shame towards her body, which translated into self-hatred that caused her to stay in unhealthy relationships. As an adult, she learned to stop blaming her body for "failing her" and start surrounding herself with more supportive people. She started her Confidence Coaching business last year, so she is new to the coaching scene, but her TikTok is taking off thanks to her fantastic dancing. You can also find her on Instagram @erikaaeileen and on her website.

10. My Sex Bio Studio (@mysexbio), Sex Education

My Sex Bio Studio is a gender-inclusive virtual wellness center with curated sexual empowerment classes, workshops and events that foster community and support individuals in taking command of their sexual selves. They believe that sex ed is more than condoms and anatomy lessons; it must include consent, pleasure, desire, mindfulness and the clear understanding that YOU control your sexual self. They empower users to write their own sexual biography and reflect on sexual explorations and evolution. You can also find My Sex Bio Studio on Instagram @mysexbio, on their Youtube channel and on their website.

Support sex-positive creators to influence the TikTok algorithm.

Unfortunately, TikTok is known for suppressing content that it deems "undesirable," so healthy sex education is often unfairly stifled on the app despite TikTok's Terms of Service claims that "sexually explicit content with the intent to educate" is acceptable on the app.

So, if you're interested in these subjects, especially human sexuality and sex education, give sex-positive creators a "follow" and like/comment on their content to let TikTok know that matters of sexual intimacy & healthy sexuality are important and need to be educated about.

And although it's not seeming likely at this point, make sure to find and follow these creators elsewhere online in the event that TikTok is banned in the US.


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