Sometimes, something's got to change in your sex life or relationship—but you don't know what to do or where to start.
All of us experience conflict, shame, blame, guilt, jealousy and sometimes even devastating issues like infidelity and mismatched sexual desire in our intimate relationships. But it is possible to overcome these problems and even transform them into deeper intimacy and more fulfilling sex than you may have thought was possible.
As a sexual empowerment and shame-free relationship coach, my passion is helping you design and create a road map that works for YOU to create the most authentic, thriving intimate life possible. Let me be your cheerleader, support person and guide on your personalized journey towards more fulfilling sexuality, intimacy and relationships.
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"Working with Janel is incredible. Our sessions were deeply moving and affecting in every way. Every couple should have this experience. I cannot express enough, this is life-changing. We had conversations about things neither of us had ever shared before. Our relationship has gotten closer, sexier, more intimate and more trusting."
-Charlie & Laura F.
Areas of Expertise
Communication for connected conflict
Talking about our needs, desires and boundaries are hard because no one ever taught us how to do it and we're afraid to lose our attachment people by speaking up for ourselves. But sharing our needs and desires and working through conflict together helps us feel closer to the people we love. Learn (and practice) the communication skills, emotional vulnerability, self-awareness and emotional intelligence needed to maintain healthy relationships and prevent resentment and dishonesty.
Shame-free unconventional relationships
I love helping people on their journeys with ethical non-monogamy, open-relationships, kink and BDSM. I am also an ally for the LGTBQIA+ community. As someone who identifies as non-monogamous, I am passionate about supporting people with "unconventional" desires to live their best lives. However, I never "push" non-monogamy, and I frequently work with partners who have different levels of comfort with it to empower them find what works for them as a couple.
You and your partner are unique individuals, so why try to fit into outdated social norms about how relationships are "supposed to" be? You get to design an intimate life that works for YOU, without shame and without overstepping your or your partner's boundaries. Discover and share what you authentically want in love & sex; support your partner to be truly themselves; and practice talking about your fears, needs and desires.
Breaking sexual and relationship agreements leads to a painful disruption of trust. However, the person who cheated can change their behavior, and partners can heal and become closer after infidelity. Personally, I've been on both sides of this story and have the nonjudgmental compassion and skill to help you. I help partners and individuals rebuild trust after boundary violations.
Mismatched libidos & desires
If you and your partner want very different things in the bedroom or one person wants more sex than the other person does, I can help you navigate this painful issue. You and your partner can create win-win agreements for compromise to feel more intimately connected without overstepping either of your boundaries.
I was trained and certified as a coach by the Somatica Institute of sex & relationship coaching and I hold a bachelor's degree in Communication from the University of Southern California.
My approach to sex and relationship coaching is interactive and holistic. It is based on the proven concept that experiential learning can more quickly and deeply impact personal growth in the intimate realm than traditional talk therapy or cognitive learning.
Through guided somatic (body-based) exercises such as meditation, visualization, breathwork, touch exercises and communication exercises/role playing, I will empower you to overcome conflicts in your relationships, tap into desire, celebrate your sexuality, learn to identify and ask for what you want in your love and sex life, gain confidence in intimacy and feel more connected to your loved ones.
"Janel is remarkably easy to talk to and an excellent listener. I felt complete non-judgment from her and affirmation of everything I was feeling. I appreciated how she often brought the conversation back to me and away from my partner, which allowed me to really focus on what I want from a relationship."
Let's do this!
Overcome conflict, enjoy shame-free sexuality, gain better communication skills, feel more deeply connected and create truly authentic relationships. To transform your intimate life through a private coaching journey with Janel, apply now:
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