Janel Vitale is a certified coach who empowers partners to design their sex and relationships around their authentic needs, desires and boundaries.

Hi! I'm Janel

I'm a content creator and somatic coach for shame-free relationships and sexual empowerment. My mission is to give people the tools to understand their desires and feel more free to be themselves in their intimate lives. I'm a total geek for emotional intelligence, self-awareness, and vulnerable communication skills.

After 14 years in Catholic school, I struggled to embrace my sexuality and unconventional relationship orientation. My journey to becoming my most authentic self in love and sex inspired me to become a coach. Now, my passion is empowering you to overcome shame and fear to create the intimate life you really want.

I hold a BA in Communication from the University of Southern California and a certification in sex & relationship coaching from the Somatica Institute. Though based in the San Francisco Bay Area, my content has an international reach through my TikTok, Instagram and YouTube channels. 

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What I Believe

I have seen that when partners design their relationships around both of their needs and desires, they create deeper emotional intimacy and longterm relationship satisfaction. With emotional intelligence and vulnerable communication, you can have security and freedom in your relationships. 

I believe that authenticity is real relationship security. Because we are more likely to stay in relationships that evolve with us and empower us to be our true selves.

To that end, I help partners overcome fear, jealousy and insecurity and create a thriving love and sex life that inspires growth, exploration and intimacy.

How I Got Here

My Story

I've always been into creating a life that authentically fits.

My life has been a wild adventure of self-discovery:

  • I traveled the world as a cruise ship singer.

  • I lived at several intentional communities and tried my hand at organic farming.

  • I experimented with polyamory (cultivating serious relationships with more than one partner).

  • I hiked 5,0000 miles on long distance trails in the US and raised $10,000 for girl empowerment nonprofits.

  • I attended multiple life-changing sex & relationship coaching trainings.

Over the course of this winding journey, I learned how to face my fears and trust my intuition.

I discovered what I really want in love and sex.

And I gained the skills and confidence to communicate about my needs and desires without shame.

My journey inspired me to become a coach to help others who are craving more authenticity in their intimate lives. 

I'm honored to be your guide in creating more fulfilling sex and relationships.

Watch my TikTok about my journey to becoming a sex & relationship coach.

My Love Story 

Meet my partner Patrick, who is also a coach and guest instructor in my programs. In the years we've been together, Patrick and I have designed a healthy, thriving open relationship in which we continually invest in our partnership and enjoy connecting with others.

It's not always easy, but when we experience jealousy and other uncomfortable emotions, our goal is to learn from the feelings by asking ourselves, "What is this discomfort trying to teach us about our fears, needs and boundaries?" This practice empowers us to transform conflict into deeper understanding and intimacy. 

Patrick teaches me about self-awareness, emotional intelligence, healthy boundaries and connected communication every day. Many of the tools and reflections I offer to my clients come from my relationship with him. My gratitude for being in such a solid relationship inspires me to help others manifest their own healthy, authentic relationships.

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I am trained and certified in the Somatica® Method of sex & relationship coaching, which is based on the proven concept that experiential learning can more quickly and deeply impact growth in the intimate realm than traditional talk therapy or cognitive learning. Through mind/body exercises like meditations, visualizations, breathwork, touch exercises and role plays, you are more empowered to tap into your authentic desires, gain confidence with communicating about your needs and boundaries, celebrate your sexuality, and overcome conflicts in your relationships.

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