It's time for you two to intimately reconnect.

Are you & your partner struggling with different needs and desires in the bedroom? Apply for your exclusive invite to my free private training, Heal Your Sexual Mismatch with my Desire by Design™ Framework.


"Janel's openness and non-judgmental mentality made us each feel incredibly validated and comfortable sharing our feelings. She helped us understand each other in such a deeper way. We feel closer and better equipped to navigate difficult times in our marriage. It's a complete night and day difference!"

- Devin & Jo R.

What kind of relationship do YOU want?

Love isn't one-size-fits-all. Find out if a traditional relationship fits you best at this stage of your life or if you are craving something more open.


Meet Your Coach

Janel Vitale



I help couples design shame-free intimacy around their desires.

My passion is empowering partners to "unlearn" outdated myths about love & sexuality, gain powerful communication tools for deeper intimacy, and create more authentic sex & relationships. I help my clients transform fear, jealousy and insecurity into more fulfilling connection and pleasure. 

I became a coach after years of battling sexual shame.

After 14 years of Catholic school, I thought something was wrong with my desires. On a quest of self-discovery, I traveled the world as a cruise ship singer, lived on communes, experimented with polyamory, took 400 hours of relationship coaching trainings and hiked 5,000 miles across the US. Along the way, I faced my fears, practiced self-compassion, learned to talk about my needs & desires without shame and co-created the relationship of my dreams. Learn more about me >

"Working with Janel is life-changing. Our sessions were deeply moving. We had conversations about things we'd never shared before. Every couple should have this experience."

- Lauren V. & Charles C.

Get my free guide for writing your own relationship rules.

Social norms are rapidly changing, which makes navigating modern intimacy confusing. It's up to partners to negotiate their own relationship agreements these days. Challenging, yes, but also freeing & fulfilling! Start designing your intimate life around your needs, desires and values with this thought-provoking guide.

Influencing a sex-positive generation.

With over a quarter million followers on TikTok alone, I'm honored to help people around the world create shame-free intimate relationships.


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"Janel saved our relationship. We finally feel confident telling each other about our needs, desires and boundaries. Working with her is one of the best decisions we've ever made."

- Steve & Renée F.

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