Design a relationship as unique as you.

Create a healthy, secure "more open" relationship that empowers you both to thrive.


"Janel's openness and non-judgmental mentality made us each feel incredibly validated and comfortable sharing our feelings. She helped us understand each other in such a deeper way. We feel closer and better equipped to navigate difficult times in our marriage. It's a complete night and day difference!"

- Devin & Jo R.

What kind of relationship do YOU want?

Love isn't one-size-fits-all. Find out if a traditional relationship fits you best at this stage of your life or if you are craving something more customized.

Meet Your Coach

Janel Vitale


I help couples design their sex and relationships around their authentic needs and desires.

My passion is empowering partners—even those with seemingly different desires—to design a thriving intimate life. My methodology is a mind/body approach to Relationship Design: the concept that you can create customized relationships that truly fit you.

I became a coach after years of battling shame about my desires.

After 14 years of Catholic school, I thought something was wrong with my sexuality. On a quest of self-discovery, I traveled the world as a cruise ship singer, lived on communes, experimented with polyamory, took 400 hours of relationship coaching trainings and hiked 5,000 miles across the US. Along the way, I faced my fears, practiced self-compassion, learned to talk about my needs and desires without shame and co-created a thriving partnership. Learn more about me >

Create a win-win sex life.

Overcome your different desires and design a mutually-fulfilling erotic life that lights you both up.


"Working with Janel is life-changing. Our sessions were deeply moving. We had conversations about things we'd never shared before. Every couple should have this experience."

- Lauren V. & Charles C.

Get my free guide for designing your own relationship rules.

Social norms are rapidly changing, which makes navigating modern intimacy confusing. It's up to partners to negotiate their own relationship agreements these days. Challenging, yes, but also freeing & fulfilling! Create your intimate life around each of your needs, desires and values with this thought-provoking guide.

Influencing a sex-positive generation.

With over a quarter million followers on TikTok alone, I'm honored to help people around the world create shame-free intimate relationships.


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"Janel saved our relationship. We finally feel confident telling each other about our needs, desires and boundaries. Working with her is one of the best decisions we've ever made."

- Steve & Renée F.

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